Anyone else giving up becoming a public person due to cancel culture?

There are insights I’ve learned through my life as a Buddhist and neurodivergent person I’d like to share on platforms, and occasionally, some contemporary topics I’d like to weigh in on for the same reason. I’ve also been encouraged by different people in the space based on what I’ve shared.

Politically I’m a Centrist, with most of my opinions being politically correct; Anti-Trump, Pro-choice and pro women’s issues in general, No problems with how people live their lives sexually or otherwise in terms of LGBTQ. I’ll vote left cause there’s no alternative, but dream of a non-two party system.

But I honestly don’t feel like sticking my neck out in the current culture. It doesn’t feel to me as if the “bad people are being cancelled”, while that does happen, it feels more to me that we’re “waiting for someone to trip up”.

And once you’re out, you’re out. There seems to be no space for people making mistakes, learning, and growing. It’s like we’re all meant to be perfect and there’s no learning curve whatsoever.

And occasionally I like to question topics or nuance views, and that just gets hit with these extremely tribalistic opinions where I’m either “with us or the fascists”, which just doesn’t reflect where I’m coming from at all.

As an example, sometimes as a neurodivergent you really can get far by developing strategies around your weaknesses, but I see people getting torched for “victim blaming” and all kinds of really strong reactions, based on them just trying to help, not at all trying to minimalize anyone’s experience as far as I can see.

So honestly I’m just staying out. Everything I’ve learned in my life has been through trial and error, being wrong and then getting wiser, and I just don’t feel safe in this culture. I feel like everyone’s waiting for you to trip up, and if I was to make a mistake, or have a bad opinion, there’s no chance to grow, it’s just instant banishment and goodbye.

Anyone else feel like this?

Edit: Upon reflection, it feels like we live in a “Suspicion Culture”.

Hey, yes 100%. Also I know exactly that when people read all this they’re going to read it in the worst possible light. There’s a lot of language that one learns to self-censor because you know people are looking to classify you as something and place you on a hierarchy so sometimes it’s better just to give them as little info as possible.

I don’t want to examine your political beliefs or why you think you’re a centrist. There’s probably something going on there that I’d rather not know about but I want you to know it happens to all kinds of neurodiverse people. We don’t give the correct signals and today everyone is going by vibes to determine who is an ally.

Lurk around. Find the helpers, and protect your peace. Also you should note on the fediverse there’s a diverse range of servers with different askquestion communities. You’ll get a wide range of responses characteristic of the instance you post on.

!ask@piefed.social

!asklemmy@lemmy.world

!askbeehaw@beehaw.org

!autism@lemmy.world

!neurodivergence@beehaw.org

!neurodiverse@hexbear.net

!neurodivergent@discuss.online