+1 for xmpp

Yes, sadly I think you’re right. I played around with it a bit today…showed great promise…then uninstalled it and tried to do a fresh install and since then, nada.

snikket.org specifically for a small family server. Much lower maintenance and breakages than Matrix and thus less issues with the family.

Yeah…you know what? I’m going to try that. I’m sick of Jami and I am ready to burn Matrix to the fucking ground and piss on it’s ashes.

Damn

I have successfully set up Synapse Matrix server twice before and it is still a ridiculous convoluted mess. Something like Conduit for Matrix might be better, but progress there is glacial.

Probably less reliable for me as a techie. Every time I opened Jami, my firewall alerts would go off about a device on the network calling to China, Russia, and Vietnam lol. Resulted in it almost never connecting for me since my network just blocked way to many connections on it for outbound traffic.

Can you do an equivalent of matrix bridges on xmpp?

you mean like irc-matrix bridges? i think you can use matterbridge…