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any tips before I have The Talk with my aging parents?

nothing dangerous, just regular aging stuff I’m not gonna get into.

My parents own 3 fully furnished houses in 2 different cities in the south. The oldest, biggest one should be sold because it is simply too big and too much work for them and I live and work 800 miles away.

There are other issues I want to discuss with them, mainly involving healthcare access, credit, several insurances, what to do when my father cannot drive anymore, hygiene, if they want to age in place AND only in place, but where exactly, DNR and intubation status, will and burial…

They are cognizant but I feel they really don’t want to talk about it and like many elder parents they wished these questions simply disappeared.

I’ve seen so much shit with eldercare and even having a plan doesn’t mean shit won’t happen, it means you’ll know how to react and who to call.

I was thinking about inviting my parents to a meal at a quiet restaurant, pay the waiter handsomely and have an extensive conversation there. I don’t want to have such a conversation at home because I don’t want them to resent the room where I question their ability to live as independently as before.

I don’t know if this makes me an asshole.

There is also a chance they storm out or start yelling at me and give me the silent treatment afterwards.

How much can somebody realistically get selling furniture and other home stuff before downsizing?

Other stuff means everything you find in a home: tv sets, music players, several sets of cutlery, china and coffee sets, mattresses, lamps, ceiling hanging lamps, books, clothes, magazines, portable radiators, curtains, linens, pans, microwaves, pots… The whole house has to go before selling it.

Some pans are good, I and my sister could use some of them but most of the stuff, bought during a lifetime, will either be sold or given away. Most of the stuff is not from well known brands or something that would catch a collector’s eye, just practical, sometimes reliable stuff, but we also have computer monitors 40 years old, briefcases, suitcases (and also printed bank extracts 15 years old and food expired 12 years ago).

I read realistically we could get 20% of the original value for most stuff, but nobody knows anymore how much each thing cost. Neither I know if this is somebody trying to low-ball me.

My father wants to list each item individually and post an online ad to sell the items over the course of several months. He has the time, is capable and I have nothing against it. Better now that he can decide what to keep and what to toss. How much can he get if the buyer pays transportation or comes to get it? Because the large items cannot be moved without a van and we don’t have one.

I however find it easier to bulk sell: forget the yard sale, contact directly a company that bulk buys second hand stuff (we know none), accept their price, they take it all and we move on. We would be selling books and clothes by weight (several hundreds of pounds) but we are not sure how to deal with larger items, like most furniture and cookware. Also by weight?

If you ever bulk sold stuff like this, what service did you hire? how much did you get? I don’t want to have unrealistic expectations.

Or, what would be a better way to do this?

What belonging have you had the longest?

Does it hold sentimental value? Has it just lasted ages?

Does washing powder clean better than washing liquid?

No scientific proof at all but it feels like washing powder does a much better job at removing stains than washing liquid.

It also seems more and more difficult to find washing powder in store as manufacturers are moving to liquid and even more a rip off - pods. Don’t get me started on these money spinners.

What is your experience and what works best?

Do you guys also think arbitration should be outlawed?

Like, it’s such a punch in the face of the user when it’s hidden in the terms of service. It’s so scummy it hurts. I still can’t believe corporations are getting away with avoiding going through the legal system like that.

Here are the cons of an arbitration clause:

1. You lose the right to class action lawsuits
2. It’s less public than going through the legal system

How is the far-right responding to forest fires in your countries?

I’m just curious how the far-right is framing these developments, and how it differs per country.

Are they mostly talking about the “pyromaniacs”?

Or about how governments failed to do organize the (supposedly normal) periodic low intensity fires to prevent the big ones?

Or are they simply not talking about it at all?

If you have any concrete links to local media, I would be very curious!

Raspberry Pi alternatives?

What is your favorite alternative ? Why ? Are Raspberry Pi tutorials compatible with it ? Thank you, everyone

How do you deal with getting rid of old stuff that just sits there wasting space but still has residual emotional value?

My father is sorting items in his huge houses, 2 of them, to sell, give away or dump as a hopefully previous step to downsizing, which took me to think about how much stuff of my childhood sits there wasting space, stuff I could try to sell or give away, because after my parents die I don’t plan to move back there: I’ve made my life elsewhere and down there there are no decent jobs.

The items: A huge collection of 300 or so music CDs and 50 vinyl records I bought between ages 15 and 25 of my favorite bands back then. I don’t believe I’d get even 2 bucks a piece, not even for the vinyls (no special editions), my library with 250 or so books I bought and received as presents during my childhood, including a complete encyclopedia, clothes that are already too small for my physique.

I moved out 10 years ago and I’ve rarely visited. Those items are more something I remember than something I need: I digitized the music library years ago, the books I like I can get online or I already have them, I could save some clothes that fit and toss the rest, I could also use my old bed and study table, because those things are actually useful. I don’t even have a CD or a vinyl player (my father does).

I know that stuff is only stuff and when I die, it will all remain here on earth and most probably be sold or destroyed, but I I just can’t bring myself to throw them away, even though I know it’s the logical choice as a previous step to sell that old house.

Moving the stuff in with me makes me a hoarder, so no. Plus I don’t have that much space. And what would I move the stuff in with me for? It would sit there in boxes wasting space.

What worked for you?

Do You Use Your Phone As A Server?

I have a rooted redmi note 11 pro 4g with unofficial lineageos installed. It is my personal device. But I barely use it. If someone calls I pick up, that’s about it. The phone is completely clean too, no trace of whatsapp or anything like that. The most bloated app on the phone is brave. Like I said, squeaky clean. Now I want to turn this into a machine using plain termux or chroot to run piefed, gotosocial and stuff, and host my blog page, but I am undecided. Since it’s rooted, I thought I could set up something that starts charging at 45% and cuts off at 75%. What do you think I should do?

The main question is in the title. If you run a server on your own device, what do you host on it?

Wanna learn how to be banned from a Tanky community?

Too afraid of my replies apparently. Fucking cowards! That’s it. Just wanted to voice my censorship…

Who would you say is worse, someone who thinks the world revolves around them or someone who thinks they are right about everything?

How come do we see neatly without correction under water?

When snorkeling, scuba diving, or just swimming with goggles, you don’t need corrective glass, why does water do this and not air? Both are transparent continuous fluids.

Lemmings who order cheese pizzas, have you always just ordered cheese pizzas or is that something that happened with age?

Good in-depth guides for starting a podcast?

I’ve been slowly working my way towards starting a podcast. I know my theme and I have ideas for the first couple episodes, but I’m looking for more in-depth guides through the technical parts of the process. I can research and find open source audio editors, I have access to a good mic setup, and I can write a script, record it, and edit it. My concern is more of the release side. I’m aware that the podcast ecosystem runs via RSS, but I’m looking for a sort of walkthrough of this last leg of the process. Any suggestions are welcome. Thanks!

Can somebody please explain why nouns like "the Devil", "the Pope", "the Holy Spirit" need the word "the"?

Aren’t they all proper nouns and therefore supposed to not need the definite article?

I feel like i want to give up, what should i do?

lot of thing happened for me, not even single warning and bang, it hits so hard to the point i feel like i want to give up on life. what happened so far :

• lost 4+ years of hardwork and source of income due to small mistake
• money stuck in certain platform and they no guarantee it will be back after 6 months
• ghosted by “close friends”. realized most of them don’t care when i am at lowest
• staying in hotel and Aircon brokes two days before i checkout, and not even single compensation given
• i still highly depends on medication just to able to sleep, doctor doesnt seem to have empathy
• i have CTS (Carpal tunnel syndrome) for years and i still cannot regain my full strength back.
• my career stuck in low income level, and its hard to get new job these days
• still regularly going to hospital at least 2-3 times a week, to the point i get tired of it already

people say life is blessing, but for me life is suffering, all bad things always happened, i am not even allowed to be happy anymore.

What are world-changing creations made by a country other than the US?

Almost all the global society-altering creations i can think of FROM THE PAST 100 YEARS are from America. I highly doubt that’s true, so I’m looking for counter-examples.

To clarify, I’m looking for items on the level of:

• the internet
• rock music
• nuclear weapons
• ai
• airplane flight (older than 100 years)

And clearly I’m not just including things that improved the world.

The best ones i can think of are (I think):

• Rocketry (Germany)?
• Cheap tech manufacturing (Asian countries)?

EDIT:

Actually rocketry has been around much longer than 100 years. Even the category of “modern rocketry” begins in the late 1800s. Source: www.grc.nasa.gov/www/…/history_of_rockets.html

EDIT 2:

A further explanation of what level I’m talking about.

There has to be a clear before and after, and it has to directly and quickly effect most of the world. For example the Internet. There’s life before the internet, and there’s life after the internet, which are both very different.

As opposed to for example if someone makes a groundbreaking foundational research discovery that effects the entire realm of their field of study, but doesn’t quickly and directly create a difference in most people’s lives, then it doesn’t fit the category.

Did I got scammed? My Prime B360M-K sometimes boots with Gtx1650, and sometimes don't.

With horrible pc parts price I bought this Office PC with a Asus Prime B360M-K to upgrade as a gaming pc but the chiniese GTX 1650 Low profile I bought does not boot sometimes. It gives 1 long beep and 3 short beeps gap and another beep. card fan does spin all the time.

I lost touch

I was registered on lemme.ee. Has this instance ceased to exist? TY.

Have you came across Lemmy post in a search Engine?

since stackoverflow is dead and reddit is also on the way to its grave, I was wondering if we can have enough knowledge base here so that Lemmy comes on the first page of a search query. I know it’s very hard to archive and I haven’t even seen a single result from lemmy unless I specifically add ‘lemmy’ keyword to it.

side tangent: Reddit results are also not shown unless we add ‘reddit’ keyword but sometimes even if you don’t add ‘reddit’ you can see it on the first result.