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!asklemmy@lemmy.ml · Created ⁨Apr⁩ ⁨2019⁩

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old person here: how do you deal with immature coworkers 20 years younger than you?

Most of my coworkers are younger than me, there are lots of people in their early 20s.

Some are genuine and even explain me things I don’t understand.

Then there are the immature ones who only care about gossip. I don’t like working with them.

I’m doing a one year certification to work on a related field and I already know the group I’ll be working with. If it doesn’t work I can always look elsewhere but I’d prefer staying.

Learning won’t be a problem, training on the job with the mature, genuine ones won’t be a problem.

The problem will be the childish ones that claim they’re willing to help only when the manager is present to do the opposite when he disappears, something that has happened before. In this group there are 2 young girls that are very loud and lazy.

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Have you ever experienced sexual anhedonia?

I just did. It sucked. For the first time in my life I ejaculated without an orgasm. Not a little one or a lousy one. Like, not one- at all. Nothing.

In fact, I am pretty mad about it right now. It feels like jonesing for a candy bar, putting your cash in the vending machine and it just takes your money. WTF?? Now you’re still hungry, super irritated, and don’t have another dollar.

I pray this is just a one time thing. Please, universe, don’t take away ol trusty.

Has anyone else experienced this??

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how many of you question your life choices after an accident?

more than a question, this is just something that popped in my mind after taking a week off work already, a week without work means free time to hate the job you have, but in my case more than that I’ve been thinking about my childhood, my parents, my extended family, our holidays together, how insignificant we humans are, how fragile and short life is, how fast time goes by and how much I don’t want to work.

I guess this is cliche, but when I had to work I didn’t question my job this much, didn’t think about my childhood or my dreams, I simply wanted to get the job done, go home, eat and disconnect till the next day. I was like a machine, or a moron.

I’ll be a moron again when I have to work again. I don’t want to work.

It’s like I’m a different person when I’m not working.

Is this dangerous? People too busy with work don’t think like this.

I want to write poetry, lay on the sun in summer, listen to the cicadas, eat oranges and apples, listen to relaxing music. I want to play the guitar.

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Do you also feel fuller if you drop onions or leeks in your stews?

I’m afraid I’m a terrible cook.

To save me time because I have to work, my to go menu was to prepare a stew with ground meat, mostly chicken, and potatoes, ‘cause they’re cheap and fill you up fast. Add water and pepper, cook, done. I try to cook big batches to save time.

A friend gave me a leek, so I added it to my usual mix: now I feel I’m fuller for longer and don’t have to eat that much meat (I usually mix the same amount of meat and potatoes).

Have I been coking wrong the whole time?

What else can I add to my stews to feel full for longer, to not gain weight but to have enough energy to do my job?

Any downsides to eating less meat?

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What search engine do you use?

I’m looking for something that just gives good results with their own engine, not proxying google or yahoo, without LLMs being involved.

I’ve used startpage and have my own searxng instance self hosted. But both use mostly google results with just a nicer frontend.

I was looking Kagi as an alternative. But they seemed to move to become another AI company, bundling their subscription to the search engine with a subscription to an LLM, so I’m not paying for that.

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how do you boil prawns?

don’t want to stir fry them because I don’t want to make a mess with my kitchen.

don’t have an oven, so the easiest way to cook them is afaik boiling them.

Do I add salt and pepper while boiling or AFTER?

Do I peel em before boiling or boil them WITH the shell?

Do I need to boil them if I choose to prepare a soup with leeks and maybe potatoes?

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Any Lemmings in Sapporo? Visiting this weekend/next week.

Hey all, I’m visiting Sapporo through August 5 (solo trip, driving around Hokkaido) and figured I’d test whether the fediverse has enough density here for an IRL meetup.

About me: maker, business systems, homelabber. Happy to talk travels, crafting, technology, nightlife, or whatever over beers.

Proposal: Beer Inn Mugishutei (Minami 9 Nishi 5, a basement beer bar), [8/2] at 7pm. I’ll be the white guy in a beanie. If that doesn’t work for you but you’re around, comment or DM and we’ll figure something out.

If literally nobody is in Sapporo, feel free to use this thread to tell me what I should eat while I’m here instead.

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Why news channels use background music?

Why all the news channels we see today uses background musics and flashy animations instead of directly telecasting the news to it’s audience?

Is there any advantage on putting specific background musics on each clips they telecast? Isn’t a direct telecast without any added things is a more clean and direct way to broadcast news to the audience?

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Should I go into freelance web development in 2026 in high-cost country?

I am thinking of doing freelance web development for money, but also at the same time I’m not really sure about it because, why would they hire me, a human in a high-cost (high cost of living but I don’t even think it looks like a 1st world country anymore and the conditions only seem to be getting worse) country rather than use AI to do most of the work for either cheaper or for free or hire someone in a low-wage/low-cost country like India or Pakistan?

I mean, I’ve even noticed that most of my “local” businesses are doing something similar - instead of hiring local people, they literally go out of their way to hire immigrants (to the point where the locals feel like they have no chance of getting a job, especially Gen Z), just simply because the government has made it cheaper for companies to hire these immigrants instead of the locals. I don’t think they even care about the fact that ever since they started doing this, their quality of service has gone down. Nothing against these immigrants themselves, but I’m just saying.

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My father wants to pay for a family tomb so that when I die, I can be buried there as well. Do I let him or try to stop him?

my father is religious, I’m not and I don’t care what happens to my body after I die. Burn me, use me to feed stray cats.

To me, wasting money to buy a plot of land so I may be buried with them when I die is a stupid idea.

It is, however, his money. Who am I to disagree with him?

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App suggestions? Planner app with family sharing, iOS

My wife and I’s app of choice for sharing and storing is dying. The dev team was bought out by some corpo/VC and as a result their side project of a usable planner app is going sideways.

We currently use it for the following, and importantly they are updated on both our devices when one person makes a change.

  • recipes
  • needed groceries
  • vehicle maintenance info
  • to do list for home maintenance, such as changing air filters or cleaning gutters, etc.

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What are some good keyboards brands?

Can anyone recommend a good keyboard brand? I’m looking for one that’s comfortable and has color and character and not boring. I saw some keyboards from a brand called Yunzii but I’ve read some mixed reviews on them. I also want to make sure I get a keyboard that doesn’t collect or share data, since everything collects data now. Doesn’t have to wireless, wired works.