kindnesskills

Those things are not dependent on if you are nice or not (well, it’s easier to make good friends if you are nice, of course).

You’ll never live in easy mode regardless of if you are nice or mean. You need money and other such privileges for easy mode (and even then everyone has their struggles).

You can choose between struggling and being a good person, or struggling and being a bad person. Good or bad doesn’t change the outcome.

You should ask them! Maybe they’ll start thinking about it.

I’ve had a few occasions where I’ve gone after someone who left droplets after themselves. I (discreetly) brought them into the bathroom and kindly asked them to please clean up so I can use the toilet. Perfect amount of shame having to clean it up while knowing I’m waiting, in dire need for a wee.

Never had to repeat myself either, but I don’t invite or visit people who would have to hear that more than once. (Except for children and perhaps teenagers, they can need a few reminders if they insist on standing).

Bad shit will happen. Shit happens to everyone. It has nothing to do with who you are as a person. But if you’re trying to do good and be good, that can be a comfort in trying times, because how you feel inside is what matters when it comes to who you are.

Do you want to be a good person? What does that mean to you; how do you expect a good person to behave? How do you feel when you act against those expectations?

When shit happens you can feel bad because shit happened AND feel bad because you were rude about it… or you can feel bad because shit happened but ALSO feel good because at least you tried to be kind and understanding and didn’t yell at anyone or make someone else feel bad.

I’d rather feel bad (about things) and good (about myself) than bad (about things) and bad (about myself). That is the reward: at least you tried.

How come you use both? Do they have different use cases or specialities?

Alright. What is it about?

Heads up: Your self-censoring instead did some unintended formatting (everything between two asterisks/stars formats to italics, between two double-asteriks it formats to bold)

If by “this generation” you mean the generation of people owning companies (that don’t want their advertising associated with this stuff), the generation owning social media companies (that fold to the real or imagined pressures of advertisers), and the generation who writes the law… then I still have no idea.

No. Left doesn’t start with an L in my native language, and I’d get confused on which way to write an L just by watching my hands anyway. Instead I pretend to shake someone’s hand, and whichever hand I want to put forward is the right hand.

This is it.

Beating the shit out of them. Use a big stick or special tool. If you have a rack nearby you can use it, but otherwise a sturdy fence or railing works as well. Clotheslines will not work.

Between beatings I’ll vacuum topside often, and sometimes turn them over to vacuum underside as well. Your vacuum may have a vent (likely somewhere on the pipe, near where you hold it) you can open for more airflow, to make it easier to vacuum without sucking up the fabric itself.

As a yearly/seasonal cleaning you can scrub them with snow (if you have snow) and a rough brush. Quite fun!

Probably at a racetrack a year or so ago, but out on the street? No idea. Even reds are getting kinda rare. It’s supremely boring.

You can grow your own tobacco. Once you do, never buy someone else’s (big tobaccos) crops.

It’s cheaper, you’ll probably smoke a lot less of it (you have to make each harvest last until the next crop is ready!), and you’ll have more fun with it when you do (pipe or rolling your own smokes, bragging rights, etc).

Heat the frozen veggies in the broth instead of microwave (keeps any remaining water soluble nutrients in the dish, and makes the veggies less wilted imo).

Try different frozen veggies (green beans, carrots, corn, spinach, avocado?).

Most fresh veggies can be sliced or diced into it as well whenever there’s a good price on them, and the taste and texture provides avriety from frozen veggies, but in my experience frozen are usually cheaper. But half a fresh bell pepper can give plenty of good crunch of you add it raw on top. Or thinly sliced or chopped cabbage.

Add one or a half package of drained ready-to-eat beans (packages in water, not dry) for fiber, protein and minerals.

Experiment with different spices and sauces to put on top. Coconut milk, peanut butter, soy sauce, sriracha, sesame oil, crushed tomatoes…anything you’ve got available can go in (but not everything goes well on the same occasion). The more you spice it yourself the less you need to put of any included spice mix, which is mostly salt, while the noodles themselves are usually also mostly salt.

The first one sounds more neutral to me, just mentally add a questionmark or a “right?” to it. They’re leaving space for you to respond if the statement is true or not. This is kinda like how conversations go, people leave space for the others to chime in and take their part in it.

If someone “claims” something happened, it seems like an accusation or interrogation.

The main takeaway is that everyone interprets things differently and prefer different styles of communication. Just keep in mind that your interpretation is not always the same as what is being intended.

I don’t know about thin skinned… it depends on a bunch of factors aside from mere words and pauses, written down here. Do you generally tend towards the defensive (feeling attacked/accused/wronged in conversation, and in turn faulting the other person for feeling that way) when dealing with other people or in certain settings?