Replying to @vestmoria@linux.community
Like a lot of other people are saying: Go to the funeral
A funeral happens once for someone, and that’s it. There’s no other opportunity to attend. So weighing missing a single opportunity to respect your father (and it sounds like you care for him) and provide closure for yourself, versus petty squabbles from other family members doesn’t make sense to me. I’ve been to funerals with family members I’ve disliked, and I just ignored them and stood away from them during the service; so I’m wondering why you wouldn’t be able to do the same? I feel like there might be something more going on. Either between you and the problematic family members; or your own mental wellbeing.
Please consider that if you miss it, you may regret it. Especially considering that the reason for missing it would be a deliberate choice, and it’s over gossip. As you get older, you may find that you will care very little about gossip; especially if it’s from people you dislike. So you may come to realize in the future that you missed your father’s funeral over effectively nothing
I’ve always been taught that attending someone’s funeral is one of the greatest good deeds you can do for someone. They’re no longer here, so they can’t pay you back; and sometimes it’s really difficult to attend both by having to stop everything you’re doing to make it, and emotionally. So there’s always been an emphasis on attending funerals in my life